I know I probably overdo the mix-tape. I have given my wife a CD compilation for every significant occasion so far in our relationship. Our first Christmas, our first Valentine’s Day, her birthday, our first anniversary — all perfect occasions for the perfect mix.
Fortunately, my wife puts up with my high school antics because she is just as much of a music lover as I am. One area of musical taste that we do not share, however, is hip hop. She loves it. I, on the other hand, have never been a fan. But thanks to a couple friends who are true connoisseurs, I have come to appreciate authentic hip hop quite a bit.
I say authentic because, as I have learned, there is a massive difference between the rap that you hear on top 40 radio stations and real hip hop, which, historically has been far more influenced by jazz and soul.
So I set out to make my wife a hip hop mix that truly captured how I felt about her and what she meant to me.
This was far more complicated than it sounds. Do you have any idea how hard it is to find great hip hop love songs that aren’t completely misogynistic?
I had several rules. First, the songs had to actually express how I felt. Two, they had to be love songs. Three, they had to be true hip hop, not r&b, which often gets lumped into the genre.
This made putting together the mix a lot harder than I expected, because there are a lot of great loves songs that are r&b and a lot of great hip hop tracks that aren’t love songs.
Nevertheless, after spending nearly two months just listening to hip hop and exploring this genre I put together, what I think, is a phenomenal mix that will appeal to lovers of great hip hop and lovers of great music in general.
So without further adieu, here’s the list. Most of these you can sample on iTunes. Others I spent quite a while tracking down.
By Your Side
1. OutKast: The Love Below (Intro)
2. Count Bass D: Seven Years
3. Common: The Light
4. C.L. Smooth & Pete Rock: Searching
5. Lyrics Born: I Can’t Wait for Your Love
6. Method Man: I’ll Be There for You
7. De La Soul: Eye Know
8. Guru: Trust Me
9. World Renown: Butter Love
10. Common: Come Close
11. OutKast: Prototype
What do you think? Have you ever made a mix that you now look back on and cringe? If you were to make one for your special person today, what would be on it?